Ignite commitment by issuing a challenge they can’t resist

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When Maya took over the small design studio, revenue had flatlined. Month after month, her team missed targets. Rather than issuing another memo, she gathered them and said, “I have a challenge: let’s increase our client pitches from eight per month to fifteen. If we do it, I’ll throw a pizza party on Friday.” Faces lit up—this wasn’t an order, it was a dare. Over the next two weeks they brainstormed 20 new concepts, upped their outreach and tracked progress on a whiteboard. By the end of the month, they’d hit 16 pitches. The studio’s confidence soared and revenues jumped 25% the following quarter.

Behavioral science shows that challenges tap into intrinsic motivation by framing tasks as games. Gamification research finds that adding a simple goal-and-reward dynamic can boost performance by up to 50%. By turning a dry target into a playful contest, you trigger creativity, focus and a shared sense of purpose.

You announce the dare, set a clear number and deadline, then watch how a bit of playful competition unlocks surprising energy and results. Give one bold challenge today.

What You'll Achieve

You’ll spark fresh energy and collaboration. Externally, targets will be met faster, creativity will surge and team morale will rise.

Frame it as a bold dare

1

Identify a stretch goal

Pick a target that’s ambitious yet attainable. You want it to feel like a real dare—just beyond easy reach.

2

Cast it as a friendly contest

Say, “Let’s see if our team can…” or “I dare you to…” to spark playful competitiveness.

3

Set a clear deadline

Add urgency: “by Friday,” or “in the next sprint,” so the challenge feels concrete and time-bound.

4

Celebrate the effort

Plan a small reward or recognition for trying—even if the full goal isn’t reached, celebrate the attempt.

Reflection Questions

  • What goal in your work or life could use a playful dare?
  • How can you frame it as a friendly contest instead of an order?
  • What small reward will amplify the fun of trying?
  • When will you announce your challenge to maximize impact?
  • How will you track progress to keep the momentum going?

Personalization Tips

  • Fitness: “I dare you to add one extra set to your workout today and see how you feel.”
  • Learning: “Let’s finish this module by the end of the day—who’s in?”
  • Sales: “I challenge you to reach five extra calls before lunch; let’s see if you can.”
How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age (Dale Carnegie Books)
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How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age (Dale Carnegie Books)

Dale Carnegie 2011
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