The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Levelby Gay Hendricks
An eye-opening guide to how you unconsciously sabotage yourself every time you succeed beyond your perceived limits. The Big Leap teaches you about the upper limit problem, how it works, and the steps you can take to break the cycle and live your highest potential. This book can help you expand your mind to achieve the success, abundance, and love you desire to have in all areas of your life.
Identify your upper limit problem
Within you, there is an inner thermostat setting that defines the level of love, success, and creativity you allow yourself to enjoy. Whenever something good happens and your enjoyment level exceeds this setting, you tend to find a way to sabotage your happiness. This causes you to drop back down into your familiar and secure comfort zone. This hidden barrier that you’re unconsciously afraid of superseding is known as your upper limit.
For example, you win the lottery, get into a vicious argument with your spouse, and ultimately end up in a divorce. You do this because deep down you see yourself as a flawed person who doesn’t deserve good things in your life. An inner voice convinces you that having more money, love or attention is too much for you to handle. Therefore, you do something to bring yourself back down to an emotional state you’re familiar with.
This upper limit was programmed into you in early childhood by your parents. It keeps you in a zone of competence or excellence, which unfortunately also prevents you from reaching your zone of genius. There are myriad ways in which you unconsciously practice these upper-limit behaviors that stifle your flow of positive energy. Your goal is to focus your awareness on these behaviors so that you can prevent them from negatively affecting your life.
Actions to take
Express your true genius
“Those who have the courage to discover and bring forth their genius break through to unparalleled heights of productivity and life satisfaction”
You may think that living in your zone of excellence is good enough. However, if you can almost sleepwalk through the things that keep you successful, then you’re not truly pushing your limits. Yet most people instinctively know that they would be happier in their zone of genius. However, they make all kinds of excuses as to why they aren’t taking that next step. They blame their company, family, stress, or a lack of money. In reality, they are simply afraid of failing or finding out that they don’t have a zone of genius.
Unfortunately, you can only make a big leap in your life once you leave your zone of excellence and discover your zone of genius. In your zone of genius, you’ll find a constant sense of purposeful joy. You won’t even feel like you’re working. Time seems to expand and your success seems almost effortless.
Living in your zone of genius requires commitment. You have to make a sincere commitment to step out in faith even if you aren’t sure of what awaits you on the other side. Once you’ve stepped into the unknown, then you can begin to explore the wonders and hidden treasures deep inside you.
Actions to take
Learn to live in your zone of genius
“The Ultimate Success Mantra… beams a key instruction to your conscious and unconscious mind. It tells you to expand, rather than contract or remain as is. It is the antidote to years of conditioning, the ancient programming that convinced your unconscious mind you don’t deserve full success”
Once you’ve solved your upper limit problem and entered your zone of genius, you have to learn to live there. This is not an easy thing to do. Remember that you’ve spent your whole life trapped in the lower zones, which are like boxes that provide you with great results but very little satisfaction. The zone of genius, however, is like a continuous spiral that allows you to expand your capacity for more abundance and love each day. Therefore, you have to master new skills that keep you balanced in your new environment.
Fortunately, there are steps you can take to make this process easier. The most important thing at this stage is to develop a central guiding intention. This is a meta-program that you install in your subconscious mind so that it helps you live easily in your zone of genius. Your central guiding intention can act as a shortcut that enables you to save time and energy as you navigate your way through your zone of genius.
Actions to take
Embrace Einstein time
“When we switch to Einstein Time, we take charge of the amount of time we have. We realize that we’re where time comes from. We are no longer in an us-versus-them relationship with time. We’re the source of time, and by realizing that fact we become the truth of it”
In business as well as life, it’s so easy to get bogged down in the mundane details that you barely have time for creative pursuits. The number one complaint that most people have, regardless of the job description, is a lack of time. Therefore, if you want to work harmoniously and at high performance, you need to transform your relationship with time. This will help you experience less stress and more productivity throughout your day.
However, this is only possible if you make the shift from Newtonian to Einstein time. Newtonian time, which is the usual linear way of viewing time, requires you to use all kinds of time management systems to get everything done. Unfortunately, these systems rarely work and you often find yourself wasting more time than you save. But Einstein time is a quantum-based technique that allows you to expand the amount of time you have available.
Under Einstein’s paradigm of time, you perceive time as an infinite resource because you create your own time. You realize that time is something that’s inside of you as opposed to an external entity. As a result, you never feel time pressured, and you always have more than enough time to get work done as well as enjoy hobbies and relationships.
Actions to take
Solve your relationship problems
“Relationship is the ultimate spiritual path because it constantly presents us with the challenge to love and embrace in the very situations in which we’re most prone to shun and reject. For that reason, a relationship is where our spirituality most visibly comes to light”
Making the big leap is all about increasing your tolerance for success, abundance, and love. One of the areas that suffer the most when we’re unable to do this is our relationships. Despite popular opinion, the more successful you become in life, the more difficult your relationships tend to be. This is because many successful individuals don’t know how the upper limit problem works. Two people come together with the false belief that they are flawed and unworthy of success, and this simply intensifies their upper limit problem.
When you’re in love, you experience an emotional high that sets off your upper limit switch, thus triggering you to come back to a more familiar level. This leads you to pull back from further intimacy, usually by creating an argument, withholding communication, or dominating your partner. Unfortunately, this limits the positive energy in your relationship. Another major challenge is the habit of projection. For example, you may complain that your wife is too passive but the reality is that you attract such women because you’re uncomfortable with a powerful woman.
For a relationship to thrive, both partners must be equals and take 100 percent responsibility rather than acting as victims. By understanding how the upper limit problem works, you and your partner can also increase your ability to handle more positive energy. You’ll synergize each other’s quest for living in the zone of genius, thus making your relationship journey much smoother.