Own your success


  1. Determine why you downplay your success. When you catch yourself downplaying your achievements, take a moment to ask yourself some important questions: Am I concerned about others' opinions? Do I genuinely feel deserving of my success? Am I afraid it won't last? Write down your answers to gain clarity.
  2. Express gratitude for your success. Instead of attributing all your success to others, express gratitude for the support and guidance you've received. For example, saying things like "I'm grateful for the mentorship I received" or "I appreciate the values my parents instilled in me" acknowledges the role others played without diminishing your own contribution.
  3. Avoid qualifying statements. Skip the disclaimers like "I don't mean to brag, but..." as they can come across as insincere or hurtful. Instead, focus on sharing the positive news directly. For example, say, "I'm excited to share that..." and proceed to share your accomplishment.
  4. Skip the humblebrag. Resist the temptation to downplay your success through self-deprecating statements. For instance, posting a picture of worn-out shoes and saying, "Guess I should buy new shoes now that I'm a manager," is not effective. If you've been promoted, simply state it proudly.
  5. Emphasize your effort. When receiving praise, don't dismiss it by saying, "Oh, it was nothing." Instead, emphasize the hard work and effort you put into reaching your goals. For example, say, "It wasn't easy, but the hard work paid off, and I'm proud of what I've accomplished."
  6. Stick to the facts. Avoid using exaggerated statements that make you sound boastful. Stick to sharing factual information about your achievements. For instance, say, "I doubled my sales compared to last year," or "I received an A on my exam."
  7. Accept compliments gracefully. Allow yourself to accept compliments without feeling uncomfortable. Respond with a simple "Thank you" or "I appreciate that." It may take some getting used to, but accepting kind words shows respect for others' opinions and demonstrates your confidence in yourself.
  8. Create and review a list of your successes. Make a list of your accomplishments that reinforce your worthiness for success. Include things like academic achievements, personal milestones, or challenges you've overcome. Review this list regularly to remind yourself of your capabilities and progress. Add new accomplishments as they arise, and let these reminders help you feel confident and deserving of your success.


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