Play the “Gottman Island” Survival Game.

This game is a fun way to discover and talk about how you can be more receptive to each other’s influence.

1. Each spouse writes down on a separate piece of paper what you consider the 10 most important items from the inventory list of the ship.
   Rank these items based on their importance (1 being the most important, 10 being the least important.)
   * There are no right or wrong answers.

2. Ship’s Inventory:

   1. Two changes of clothing
   2. AM-FM radio receiver
   3. Ten gallons of water
   4. Pots and pans
   5. Matches
   6. Shovel
   7. Backpack
   8. Toilet paper
   9. Two tents
   10. Two sleeping bags
   11. Knife
   12. Small life raft
   13. Sunscreen
   14. Cookstove
   15. Rope
   16. Two walkie-talkies
   17. Freeze-dried food for seven days
   18. A fifth of whiskey
   19. Flares
   20. Compass
   21. Local maps
   22. Gun with six bullets
   23. Condoms
   24. First-aid kit with antibiotic
   25. Oxygen tanks

3. Share your list with your partner.
   Together, come up with a single list of 10 items. This means talking it over and working as a team. Both of you need to be influential in making the final list.

4. When you’ve finished, evaluate how you both did.