Discover your primary love language.
When you discover what your primary love language is and communicate that with your partner, they will be able to make you feel loved. Remember, it is possible to have more than one love language!
Ask yourself, “What makes me feel most loved by my partner?” or “What do I desire above all else?”
What answer springs to mind? Is it words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch?
Ask yourself, “What does my partner do or say or fail to do that hurts me deeply?”
Use your answer as a guideline to understand your primary love language. For example, if your answer is the negative or critical things your partner says to you, your primary love language is probably words of affirmation.
Think about your ideal partner.
What are the qualities in them that makes them ideal? This should give you some indication of what your primary love language is.
Think about how you regularly express love to your spouse.
That might be the thing that makes you feel loved too.
Write down what your primary love language is, then rank the others in terms of importance.
Share this with your partner so they know how to best show their love for you.