Become a better parent by listening to your child

Pay attention to feelings
Use emotional moments as a chance to get closer to the child or to help the child learn lessons in emotional competence.

Lead by example
When you notice how a child feels, do not ignore it. If the child’s response is not appropriate show an alternative emotional response.

Show respect for the child’s feelings
Do not be too harsh in your criticism and punishments. Saying things like “Don’t you talk back to me!” shows that you don’t respect how the child feels. Instead, listen to their side of the story.

Be curious
Try to understand what made the child upset by asking “Are you angry because Tommy hurt your feelings?” and help the child to find positive ways to soothe their feelings: “Instead of hitting him, why don’t you find a toy to play with on your own until you feel like playing with him again?”