Don’t outsource understanding to dashboards—run mini listening labs

Hard - Requires significant effort Recommended

A nonprofit relied on analytics to guide outreach. Click-throughs looked fine, yet event attendance lagged. The team tried three “last time” interviews with recent sign-ups. One woman said, “I wanted to come, but the bus stop felt sketchy after dark.” Another mentioned the registration form on mobile “kept jumping.” A third said, “I thought it was invite-only.”

None of that showed up in the dashboard. The team added a daylight session, fixed the mobile form, and changed the email headline to “Everyone’s welcome.” Attendance doubled in a month. The director laughed, “We didn’t need a bigger dataset, we needed better listening.”

In a startup, an engineer asked three customers to “walk me through the last time you imported data.” Two got stuck on a hidden permission. The third said, “I kept expecting a spinner, thought it froze.” The team added a progress indicator and a permission nudge. Support tickets dropped.

Big data forecasts the average, but stories explain behavior. Qualitative listening reveals friction, emotion, and language that numbers can’t. The “tell me about the last time…” prompt reduces self-report bias and gets you closer to reality. Treat it as a weekly lab, and your metrics will start to move for reasons you understand.

Once a week, invite three users or stakeholders to walk you through the last time they did the thing you care about. Skip “why” and ask how it unfolded, what they hoped for, and where it went odd. Capture their exact phrases, then huddle with your team to share the two most useful surprises and one change you’ll try. It’s a tiny habit that will make your numbers make sense. Put your first three invites on the calendar today.

What You'll Achieve

Internally, reduce overconfidence in dashboards and grow a reality habit. Externally, remove friction that actually matters, improve outcomes users feel.

Do one ‘last time’ interview weekly

1

Recruit three users or stakeholders

Pick a diverse trio and ask each, “Tell me about the last time you did X.” No surveys, just stories.

2

Ban why, invite how

Avoid “why” (defensive), ask “how did that go?” “what happened first?” “what did you hope would happen?” to uncover real behavior.

3

Capture exact words

Write phrases verbatim. Those words reveal motivations and help you design better solutions and messaging.

4

Share the top two insights

Debrief with your team in 15 minutes. What surprised you? What will we try differently this week?

Reflection Questions

  • Where are my numbers puzzling but I haven’t listened?
  • Who are the three most different people I can interview this week?
  • Which ‘last time’ question will unlock specific steps?
  • How will I quickly share and act on what we learn?

Personalization Tips

  • Product: Three customers walk you through their last checkout and where they hesitated.
  • Education: Three students describe the last time they studied for an exam and what actually helped.
You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters
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You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

Kate Murphy 2020
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