Why No One Thrives Alone and How to Build Your Pack

After retirement, Abby tried solo runs and felt every step weighed a ton. Without her teammates beside her, each mile felt endless. She realized that the Pack made the pain lighter—the shared struggle sparked laughter, support, and miles that passed without notice.

Alisha, a new mother, felt isolated between feedings and diaper changes. She joined a moms’ group where every member brought snacks, advice, and a listening ear. At first, she hesitated to share her fears of juggling career and baby cries, but one morning she confessed her exhaustion. A fellow mom replied, “Me too. Let’s swap childcare on Thursdays.” Suddenly Alisha felt relief.

Social psychology teaches us that belonging activates oxytocin circuits, reducing stress and boosting cooperation. Groups that co-create norms and goals—so-called “intimate groups”—see higher motivation and resilience. The feedback loops of encouragement and accountability strengthen individual commitment.

By listing values, inviting honest conversations, and co-designing shared goals, you build a Pack that carries you through challenges and celebrates each victory. You’re never alone when you choose to belong.

You begin by writing down three values you hold dear and why they matter in relationships. Then you identify two or three people who share those values and reach out to one this week to set up a coffee chat or walk. During that meeting, you discuss a goal—maybe health or career—and decide how you’ll check in on each other. It’s that simple—start with one invite.