Illness Unmasked as a Process You Can Influence

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We often speak of disease as an enemy that invades our bodies—“I’ve got cancer,” “I’m diabetic”—as if it were a static thing lodged within us. Yet pioneering thinkers like Sir David Smithers likened cancer to a traffic jam, not a broken automobile engine. What goes wrong is the environment, not the car. Similarly, disease—everything from heart disease to depression—is better understood as a process unfolding in context, shaped by stress, diet, emotions, and social forces.

Consider how stress accelerates heart disease by stiffening arteries, or how chronic anxiety sabotages sleep cycles and elevates blood sugar. On the flip side, deep sleep, daily movement, and meaningful social bonds slow disease progression. The key realization is that each health challenge is a dynamic interplay—of genes, hormones, thoughts, and environment—rather than an immutable foe.

Seeing illness as process restores agency. You no longer need a miracle cure; you need targeted adjustments that shift the balance back toward health. By mapping your symptom peaks alongside your life events and adopting a narrative of growth, you recognize the levers you control—sleep, attitudes, connections, nutrition. This process-oriented view aligns with current research in psychoneuroimmunology and systems biology, showing that small, sustained changes can recalibrate your internal traffic and open lanes to well-being.

Draw your symptom timeline with life events that coincided. Relabel your condition as a shifting state—“My body is in a stressful phase.” Identify one factor that was healthier when you felt better—like more social time or better sleep—and plan to reintroduce it. Each choice nudges the process toward balance—try it tonight.

What You'll Achieve

Internally, you’ll foster a proactive health mindset, reducing helplessness. Externally, you’ll implement targeted lifestyle changes, leading to measurable improvements in energy, biomarkers, and symptom control.

Engage in Reflective Health Mapping

1

Chart your symptom timeline

Draw a simple timeline of your recurring symptoms over the past year. Mark peaks and plateaus, noting life events—project deadlines, family conflicts, or times you felt happiest.

2

Relabel disease events

Replace “I have cancer” or “I’m diabetic” with “My body is in a state of…” Observe how this shift changes your sense of agency and opens possibilities for change.

3

Identify process levers

On your timeline, pick one period where you saw stable health. List what external or internal factors were different then—sleep quality, social support, diet, mindset—and plan to reintroduce them.

4

Develop a growth narrative

Write a brief daily mantra: “Each choice I make shifts my body’s process.” Use it as a reminder to view health as dynamic, not fixed.

Reflection Questions

  • What event or feeling most closely aligns with my symptom spikes?
  • Which one healthy habit can I reintroduce today to shift the process?
  • How does shifting my language from “I have” to “I’m in” change my sense of control?

Personalization Tips

  • When you think, “I’m depressed,” try “My mind is experiencing a low period”—then activate healthy levers like morning walks.
  • Instead of “I have high blood pressure,” say “My body is under chronic stress”—then apply relaxation or boundary-setting steps.
  • Swap “I’m anxious again” for “My system is in danger mode”—then reach out for social support or mindful breathing.
The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture
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The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

Gabor Maté, Daniel Maté 2022
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