Turn Every Meetup into a Memorable Event

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When a local startup group met monthly in a sterile conference room, attendance dwindled, and the air grew stale with PowerPoint slides. Jake’s pitch to revive it included a dinner-party twist: an Italian feast in a loft with an olive-oil sommelier on hand. Guests sipped fragrant varietals while chopping garlic side by side. Laughter echoed off exposed-brick walls, and every corner hummed with fresh introductions.

Attendance tripled after word spread. Founders thanked Jake for eliminating the awkwardness of business cards and buffet lines. He’d removed every barrier—fixed-fee menus, curated conversations, and a single surprising delight: live acoustic guitar during dessert. That one added flourish made it the talk of the tech scene.

Experience design expert Pine and Gilmore argue that the best events combine immersion, engagement, and surprise. By focusing on a shared activity rather than networking for networking’s sake, Jake turned an insipid meetup into an annual summit. The result? Lasting friendships, investment ideas, and a reputation as the connector who delivers magic.

You can host your own memorable gathering by picking a purpose—like a coffee cupping or improv night—then fill your guest list with diverse experts and novices. Remove the usual friction—set a clear price, provide name badges with fun prompts, and share an agenda. Cap it off with a surprise—perhaps a local artist sketching guest caricatures. In doing so, you’ll create the kind of event everyone talks about long after the lights go down.

What You'll Achieve

Create gatherings that spark genuine connections, earn enthusiastic referrals, and cement your reputation as a thoughtful connector.

Design Gatherings That Spark Real Connection

1

Set a tight theme

Choose a focused topic or activity that resonates—cooking, book discussions, or whiskey tasting—so guests share a common purpose.

2

Curate the guest list

Invite a balanced mix of personalities and expertise levels to foster serendipitous pairings that wouldn’t happen by chance.

3

Eliminate friction points

Pre-arrange fixed-price menus, reserved seating, or clear agendas so people dive straight into conversation instead of logistics.

4

Surprise with one delight

Add an unexpected element—a midnight ice cream cart, a live painter—that makes your event unforgettable and worth talking about.

Reflection Questions

  • What small surprise could transform your next meetup?
  • Which mix of guests will spark the richest pairings?
  • How will you remove barriers so people focus on connecting?

Personalization Tips

  • Host a poetry-slams-only evening for local writers, rather than a general open-mic.
  • Organize a power-lifting happy hour at the gym instead of a generic fitness meetup.
  • Plan a screenwriting potluck where each guest brings one scene, not just any dish.
Superconnector: Stop Networking and Start Building Business Relationships that Matter
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Superconnector: Stop Networking and Start Building Business Relationships that Matter

Scott Gerber, Ryan Paugh 2018
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