Own your journey by leading yourself first

You might think empowerment starts when your manager gives you authority, but real empowerment begins within. Imagine sitting at your desk, waiting for someone to hand you a promotion or a project. Chances are, you’ll still be waiting this time next year. The power you need already lives inside you—in your knowledge, experience, relationships, and personal grit. For example, think back to a time you solved a stubborn problem because no one else could. That’s task power at work. Now multiply that by every other skill and connection you’ve built.

True self leadership is about identifying and celebrating these powers—alongside position power—is power you earn with each connection, each task you master, and each person you help. But first, you must challenge assumed constraints. Maybe you’ve believed you aren’t tech-savvy enough to lead a digital initiative. Test it: spend half an hour this afternoon exploring the tools. As you do, run a running tally of powers you didn’t know you had—perhaps your colleague’s Saturday project management tip, or your knack for clear writing. Write down “I need” statements until you can request what you really require—for instance, “I need one day this week to master the new software.”

When you keep pointing your powers toward what matters, your self-concept shifts from victim of circumstance to proactive architect of your own growth. You become a self leader who builds daily momentum, instead of waiting for permission or instructions.

Start by listing your top three ‘I can’t’ beliefs and schedule small experiments to test each. Map all five sources of power you have, then ask someone you trust to spot a missing strength. Practice ‘I need’ to get specific help. Finally, write a short development plan with one skill you’ll master by next month, and pick a buddy to check your progress.