Build a Network That Genuinely Supports You

Gavino spent years building a sprawling network—LinkedIn connections in every sector, a Rolodex exploding with names. Yet when he needed an urgent technical report, he found himself scrolling through hundreds of contacts before calling his old academy colleague, who delivered it within hours.

A growing body of research shows that meaningful support comes from a small circle of high-trust relationships. Teams beyond the optimal size of six suffer coordination problems, and large networks often dilute genuine connection. Quality trumps quantity.

Gavino decided to prune his network. He reviewed every contact he’d connected with over the past quarter and asked, “Have I benefited from this relationship? Have I given something in return?” Those with weak ties or no recent interaction were archived. He then reached out to his top five most trusted collaborators—sending thank-you notes and inviting them for coffee.

A month later, his inbox was quieter yet richer. Collaborative opportunities surfaced more quickly, decisions were faster, and he felt less overwhelmed by digital noise. By slimming down, he built trust-driven connections that offered real value. It’s a strategic refocus rooted in social network theory: strong ties yield deeper support when you need it.

Begin by jotting down everyone you’ve worked with this month, then circle the five who’ve offered genuine insight or joy. Review each name and archive those whose absence you wouldn’t mind. Trim newsletters and social feeds that waste your time. Finally, reach out to your core circle with a personal thank-you or invitation. You’ll discover how deepening a few bonds outperforms any large network. Give it a shot this week.