Decode the dark triad in everyday behavior

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At TechNova, sales legend Mark threw sleek parties for big clients—until it came time to split commissions. Those generous nights were all Machiavelli’s pay-per-view: he’d toast your success and then quietly reroute the checks to himself. When Emma challenged him on the missing fifty-percent cut, he flashed narcissistic charm—declaring, “This is all for the company’s glory.” That same evening he turned a blind eye when she burst into tears. Mark’s smiles never reached his eyes. He ticked every box for the dark triad: exploiting your hard work, demanding praise, and mocking your pain.

Studies show the dark triad—narcissism, Machiavellian cunning, psychopathic coldness—lurks in any sector. Smart teams spot it early and insulate themselves. Today, watch your colleagues’ words and silences. If you feel disposed or drained, test a boundary. A truly decent leader will respect it.

Next time you sense someone is overly handsome on paper, slow down. Notice if their praise is conditional, if your setbacks slide off their conscience, and if they affectionately announce favors without return. Keep a mental tally. When the signs align, speak up or log off. Protect your time and energy, and share what you learn with others to secure a fair, transparent culture.

What You'll Achieve

You’ll gain confidence in distinguishing genuine leadership from predatory charm, fostering healthier teams and safeguarding your career from exploitation.

Watch for Machiavellian, narcissistic, and psychopathic cues

1

Observe grandiosity

People high in narcissism often dominate conversations, exaggerate accomplishments, and expect special treatment. Notice if they interrupt or monopolize every discussion.

2

Spot subtle ruthlessness

Watch for Machiavellian exploitation—does the person unwittingly gather favors and discard friends? A boss who ‘lends’ you tasks then takes credit is a red flag.

3

Feel for emotional voids

Psychopaths may seem charming but fail to empathize. They don’t react to others’ distress. If someone laughs off your worries, note the coldness.

Reflection Questions

  • Do you find yourself walking on eggshells around anyone at work?
  • What patterns of empty praise have you noticed lately?
  • How do you react when someone dismisses genuine concerns?
  • What boundary could you set today to test your suspicions?

Personalization Tips

  • Your CEO insists on taking clients to fancy dinners but never acknowledges your unnoticed overtime hours.
  • A friend bounces back from every mistake unfazed, even if it deeply hurts others.
  • A coworker brags about their wins, then gaslights you for disagreeing.
How to Read People Like a Book: Understand People Beyond Words: A Complete Guide to Accurately Reading Intentions, Body Language, Thoughts and Emotions
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How to Read People Like a Book: Understand People Beyond Words: A Complete Guide to Accurately Reading Intentions, Body Language, Thoughts and Emotions

Ian Tuhovsky 2022
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