You can reshape your mind by rewiring your brain

Hard - Requires significant effort Recommended

When Sarah took over a high-pressure sales team, performance was tanking. Morale was low, chaotic calls reigned, and burnout was sky-high. Over intense offsite workshops and pep talks, nothing stuck. They sprinted hard and crashed just as fast.

Then Sarah tried a bold shift grounded in neuroplasticity: building one small new habit. Every morning at 9 a.m., her team paused all calls for one minute of silent deep belly breathing—no talking, phones down. They attached it to their existing calendar alarm and rewarded themselves with a silent high-five emoji in the group chat.

Within two weeks, the phone-jolts of anxiety eased into a calm clarity. The brain’s fight-flight circuitry got some much-needed downtime, young neural connections formed in prefrontal areas, and the team felt more present, less reactive. Cold-caller jitters gave way to confident listening. By the end of the quarter, their conversion rate leapt by 15%. All from one minute of silence each day. That’s brain science in action—rewiring the habits your mind thought were set in stone.

You start by picking a micro-habit you’ve never stuck to—maybe five-minute stretching or a one-sentence journal—then hook it to something you already do, like brushing your teeth. Choose a simple reward, like one sticker on a personal calendar. For the next thirty days, do it every time your cue appears. Notice when you catch yourself effortlessly flowing into the new action. That’s neuroplasticity at work, rewiring your old circuits for good. Give it a try tomorrow morning.

What You'll Achieve

You will learn to leverage the brain’s plasticity to form sustainable habits, boosting focus, calm, and performance both personally and professionally.

Build fresh neural pathways

1

Choose one new habit

Pick a tiny change—stretch for five minutes, journal one gratitude daily, or pause before replying in texts.

2

Set a cue and reward

Tie the habit to your existing routine (e.g., after brushing your teeth) and pick a small reward (a star sticker or extra five-minute break).

3

Repeat consistently for 30 days

Neuroscience shows it takes 3–8 weeks to solidify a new pathway. Track your streak in a calendar or app every day.

4

Notice shifting reflexes

As days pass, catch yourself automatically adopting the new habit. Celebrate each moment it feels instinctive rather than effortful.

Reflection Questions

  • What small habit do you most want to form but have struggled to maintain?
  • What existing daily routine can you pair it with as a cue?
  • What micro-reward will motivate you to repeat it each time?

Personalization Tips

  • A remote worker wanting calm over chaotic email checks can stretch for a minute before refreshing their inbox.
  • A student seeking focus might journal one goal immediately after shutting their laptop at night.
  • A couple craving deeper connection could pause for a shared 30-second gratitude statement before dinner.
How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships
← Back to Book

How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

Nicole LePera 2023
Insight 8 of 8

Ready to Take Action?

Get the Mentorist app and turn insights like these into daily habits.