Your sensations are messages that shape every emotion

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Every moment, your body hums its own soundtrack—tight knots in your shoulders, jittery calves, or an echoing drum in your chest. Yet most of us ignore these whispers, chasing the next task before we even exhale one breath. In reality, those physical sensations are raw messages from your nervous system, tracing back to everything you’ve ever experienced.

Imagine you’re at your desk after a fight with a co-worker. Your shoulders hunch, your jaw clenches, and your breath gets shallow. Left unchecked, those signals flood your mind with stories—‘They hate me,’ ‘I’m a failure.’ But if you simply pause, scan, and name the tension—‘I feel tight in my neck’—the story can’t hijack you. Breathing into the ache, you calm your brain’s alarm bells and open space for a more measured response.

Science calls this interoception—your ability to sense inner shifts—and it’s trainable. Just a few mindful breaths can silence the inner chatter and restore clarity. Gradually, you’ll begin to feel a powerful ease when stress crashes in, moving from reactive to responsive. It’s the simplest, most direct route back to your Self if you listen.

When you feel tension rolling in—perhaps a knot at your neck or a pang in your chest—pause for a moment and scan your body from head to toe. Gently name what you find: ‘My jaw is tight.’ Each label separates your being from the alarm. Then inhale into the area, filling your belly with air, and exhale slowly to soften the clench. By turning your focus inward, you’ll learn to translate those signals into calm action rather than reactive outbursts. Give it a try tonight.

What You'll Achieve

You’ll develop the ability to catch your body’s early stress signals, name and address them with calming breaths, and shift from being driven by emotion to guided by awareness.

Listen to the signals inside

1

Do a body scan daily

Pause three times today—after waking, midday, and before bed—and mentally scan from head to toe. Note tension, heat, or fluttering, without judgement.

2

Name your sensations

Pick two physical shifts (e.g., tight shoulders, heart flutter) and label them (‘I feel tight,’ ‘I feel fluttery’). Labeling separates you from the stress.

3

Explore the story

Ask, ‘What thought or emotion is tied to this sensation?’ Map whether it matches fear, excitement, anger, or sadness based on past experiences.

4

Try a breath shift

If your body feels constricted, inhale deeply into your belly and exhale slowly through pursed lips for two minutes to calm down.

Reflection Questions

  • Which three sensations did you notice today when you paused?
  • What emotion did each sensation seem to encode?
  • How did your breathing change the intensity of those sensations?
  • What new story formed once you labeled the tension?

Personalization Tips

  • If your chest tightens on the freeway, you can switch to deep belly breathing until tension eases.
  • When your shoulders spasm at a critical email, take ten seconds to breathe into your neck before replying.
  • If your stomach flutters before a presentation, notice it, pause, and ask yourself if this is fear of judgment or excitement about sharing.
How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships
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How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

Nicole LePera 2023
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