How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

Why transforming your relationships starts with healing your body, mind, and heart

Nicole LePera

2023

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About This Book

You carry the echoes of every childhood agreement you ever made—decades later they’re still directing your love life and friendships. In this breakthrough guide, you’ll discover how to break free from those unspoken vows and restore your sense of safety, worth, and connection. Step by step, you’ll uncover the trauma bonds formed before you could even speak, identify the secret roles you play to feel secure, and learn how to regulate your nervous system with simple mind-body tools. Then you’ll awaken your intuitive heart, building lasting, authentic relationships that reflect who you really are.

About the Author

Dr. Nicole LePera is a licensed clinical psychologist and best-selling author who blends neuroscience, mindfulness, and somatic techniques into an integrative Self-Healing approach. Her teachings have reached millions via her international podcast and social media community. Nicole earned her doctorate from The New School for Social Research, practiced for a decade, and now empowers people worldwide to heal their inner child and create thriving relationships.

Biggest Takeaway

You’ll learn to pause the autopilot that runs your life, soothe chronic stress trapped in your body, and feel safe enough to express your truth. You’ll stop repeating old relationship ruts and start identifying the seven conditioned roles—Overachiever, Rescuer, Yes Person and more—that keep you stuck. You’ll transform the most powerful organ you’ve ignored—your heart—harnessing intuition to guide decision-making. By restoring body-mind coherence, you’ll cultivate emotional resilience and attraction that lasts.