Other people’s opinions are none of your business

Everyday interactions shower you with opinions. Your aunt might worry you work too much; a stranger might slam you online for your look. But how do you tell the helpful from the harmful? First, remember all opinions fall into two camps: constructive concern, where the intent is to help, and destructive critique, where the aim is to tear you down or preserve a feel-good story. Sorting opinions with this simple two-column filter gives you power. For each piece of feedback, ask: “Is this about my growth, or is it noise?” Constructive concern deserves a brief thank-you and a thought on what you might learn. Destructive critique warrants a polite “thank-you” in your mind—then a return to your own agenda. Neuroscience shows that our brains process criticism and praise in the same social-pain circuits, so we must intentionally train ourselves not to treat every jab as a real threat. By categorizing input and choosing only what’s helpful, you break the pattern of approval-seeking and stay focused on your goals. Remember that even experts rely on trusted advisors, not on every voice in the crowd. This practice isn’t about ignoring everyone—it’s about preserving your momentum.

Next time you hear criticism, mentally label it as either “constructive” or “destructive.” Thank the source only if it’s constructive and decide on one concrete action to improve. If it’s destructive, acknowledge it silently and then set it aside—let it slide off your shoulders. By running every comment through this filter, you keep your focus on valuable feedback and refuse to waste time on hollow opinions.