Banish All Negativity to Nurture Your Sacred Space

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Imagine closing the door on every harsh word ever spoken between you two. That’s the power of a zero-negativity commitment.
Your relationship becomes a sanctuary, a promise that blame, belittling, and criticism simply won’t be allowed to cross your threshold. It’s like drawing a protective circle around your shared life—an invitation for warmth to flood in.
When you slip—and science says we all will—the calendar’s frown reminds you to hit rewind. A soft apology and three heartfelt affirmations act like a reset switch, clearing tension. These small daily rituals retrain your brain to associate your partner with safety, not danger.
As days turn into weeks without a single blame or smirk of contempt, your sacred space grows ever more impenetrable to conflict. You can feel the difference in your bones.

Tonight before bed, pull out your journal and ask, “Where did I slip into negativity today?” Then offer yourself grace—and schedule your reconnect ritual with your partner. Feel the relief together as you seal out blame.

What You'll Achieve

You’ll cultivate a consistent climate of safety and positivity that dissolves old wounds. Internally, you’ll develop self-discipline and calm; externally, you’ll experience deeper trust and a stronger bond.

Seal your relationship from blame

1

Make your Zero Negativity pledge.

Sit together and promise to stop all forms of negativity—no blaming, shaming, or silent treatment. Write it down and display it.

2

Track your progress daily.

Use a shared calendar to mark each day with a smile if negativity stayed away or a frown if it appeared. Review weekly.

3

Learn the reconnect ritual.

If negativity slips in, immediately pause the conversation, offer a genuine apology, and perform three specific affirmations.

Reflection Questions

  • What fears come up when you promise no more blame?
  • How will you notice the protective circle you’ve built?
  • What affirmations feel most healing to share?

Personalization Tips

  • Work teams can post a no-blame rule on their project board and track days without criticism.
  • Parent-child pairs can agree to no harsh words during homework time and use “holding” hugs if anger bubbles up.
  • Roommates might pledge zero negativity around shared chores and schedule weekly check-ins to reconnect.
Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples
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Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples

Harville Hendrix 2005
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