Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples

Discover the proven tools to transform any relationship chaos into lasting connection and joy

Harville Hendrix

2005

8 Key Insights

About This Book

Imagine transforming the endless cycle of blame and frustration into a partnership built on trust, safety, and genuine affection. Getting the Love You Want shows you how to uncover the hidden forces from your past that shape your arguments today, and then guides you step by step to create a new way of relating. You’ll learn precise, science-backed exercises—from the Imago Dialogue to re-romanticizing your daily interactions—that help you break free of blame, heal old wounds, and reignite passion. Experience how simple shifts in communication, empathy, and daily rituals can rebuild your connection and bring lasting joy.

About the Author

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., is a clinical pastoral counselor who pioneered relational therapy, training thousands of therapists worldwide. Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., is a feminist thinker and counselor focused on the social roots of relationship health. Together they developed Imago Relationship Therapy, drawing on psychology, neuroscience, and social activism. Their work has helped millions of couples shift from conflict to connection and inspired a global network dedicated to healing relationships.

Biggest Takeaway

You’ll develop clear communication skills that defuse conflict and deepen understanding. You’ll create emotional safety so defenses relax and heartfelt empathy flourishes. You’ll replace blaming cycles with positive rituals that rebuild trust and pleasure. You’ll access powerful insights into how your early experiences shape your relationship, so you can finally heal old wounds. And you’ll learn to cocreate a “sacred space” of daily caring and surprises that restores romance, passion, and lifelong commitment.

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