How to sidestep hiding places and noble obstacles that stall you
We all sneak into hiding places when our goals feel risky. Maybe you scroll social feeds instead of outlining that proposal or organize your closet instead of starting your next chapter. These comforts feel noble—a bit of “busywork” or a few errands—but they’re really safety nets to avoid failure. I once found myself deep-cleaning my garage for months before I’d sit down to craft a single blog post.
Noble obstacles cloak avoidance in virtue. You tell yourself, “I can’t write until I’ve taken every online course,” or “I’ll diet after I fix the pantry.” In reality, these extra steps only delay your finish line. The escape seems harmless until you realize you’re years past your intended goal date.
To break free, treat your favorite avoidance action as a red light: you don’t even approach it during your focus window. Then throw up a green light for the one action that matters—sit at your desk for twenty minutes of free writing. Over time, your hiding places lose their appeal and you’ll choose forward momentum over endless excuses.
Write down your go-to distractions and noble obstacles, then create clear boundaries that block those paths during work slots. Replace each safety net with a small, uninterruptible focus session on your goal. Do this consistently and hiding in busywork will no longer feel like an option.
What You'll Achieve
Eliminate unconscious avoidance behaviors, reclaim time for meaningful work, and replace excuses with steady action.
Spot and end your safety nets
Catch your first escape habit
Notice what you gravitate toward when you don’t feel like working—social media, busywork, or Netflix—and write it down.
Question its value
Ask, “Does this truly move me closer to my goal?” If not, treat it as a red light you’ll avoid during focus blocks.
Identify your favorite excuse
Name the “noble obstacle” in your life—“I can’t start my book until I buy the perfect laptop”—and write it down.
Restrict your hiding place
Build a short barrier—lock social apps on your phone or schedule just one hour each weekend to research laptops.
Reflection Questions
- What one task do you jump to when you want to avoid your goal?
- How would your day change if that distraction were off-limits?
- What’s a tiny focus block you can start immediately?
Personalization Tips
- A student avoids writing essays by alphabetizing pens—she locks her pen drawer until she drafts an outline.
- A parent sidesteps exercise by planning the “perfect gym outfit”—he now picks clothes the night before and has no time to stall.
- An aspiring painter waits for the ideal lighting—she now sets a 30-minute window each evening and paints regardless.
Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done
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