The Decision Trick Even Entrepreneurs Overlook
You’ve just received a blistering performance review that leaves you seething—and raring to fire off a furious email to your boss. Many people in your shoes do exactly that, only to wake up the next morning cringing at their own words. There’s a better way: give yourself permission to wait.
This strategy feels almost counterintuitive, because in our fast-paced world we think waiting equals losing momentum. But when you delay action, those initial surges of anger or anxiety cool enough for your rational mind to step back in.
Science shows that people who delay big decisions—even for a few hours—are less prone to regret and far more satisfied with their choices. They avoid impulsive mistakes and feel more in control of their emotions and outcomes.
So instead of hitting “send” right away, send yourself a reminder to revisit the issue tomorrow. You’ll return with a clearer head and a more effective plan of action—and you might even thank yourself for the time.
The next time you’re ready to react—whether it’s to a criticism, a big purchase, or a risky move—choose to wait at least until morning. Jot down your raw feelings now, then let the matter rest. When your reminder pops up tomorrow, review your initial notes and add a fresh perspective. You’ll see the emotion has softened, and you’ll make a more balanced call. Try it on tonight’s tough text.
What You'll Achieve
You’ll develop the discipline to slow down emotional impulses, reducing regrets and increasing clarity when you act. Externally, you’ll avoid avoidable mistakes and build a reputation for thoughtful judgment.
Build a Wait-and-Reflect Habit
Identify one pending decision.
Look at your calendar or inbox and find the next nonurgent choice you need to make—whether accepting a meeting invitation or replying to a tough email.
Set a delay period.
Promise yourself you’ll wait at least 24 hours (or until the next morning) before acting. Add a calendar reminder if needed to enforce the pause.
Note initial emotions.
Write down the first feelings that pop up—excitement, fear, anger. This captures your raw reaction before rational thought kicks in.
Reflect with fresh eyes.
After the delay, revisit your notes and reassess. Ask yourself, ‘What else matters? What am I overlooking?’ and then decide with both head and heart.
Reflection Questions
- What was a recent impulsive decision you regret?
- How could a 24-hour pause have changed it?
- What small choice will you test this delay strategy on tomorrow?
Personalization Tips
- Career – Before accepting a new role, sleep on it to see if you still feel enthusiastic tomorrow.
- Parenting – When a child’s tantrum ignites your anger, wait an hour to calm down before addressing it.
- Finances – If an impulse online purchase tempts you, add it to your wishlist and review after a night’s sleep.
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