Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

Discover how two broken hearts forged an unshakable love through honesty and hope

Henry Cloud, John Townsend

1992

8 Key Insights

About This Book

When invites you on two parallel journeys—his and hers—from childhood wounds and secret shame through betrayal and back to flourishing connection. You’ll witness how early trauma shaped their patterns, how raw honesty and radical transparency rebuilt trust, and how vibrant faith and community support sparked a second, stronger marriage. Through vivid, real-life scenes like a midnight proposal set to Lionel Richie or a weekend long-distance reunion in Korea, you’ll learn to harness adversity for growth. This is not a polished fairy tale—it’s a blueprint for couples ready to transform brokenness into enduring love.

About the Author

Mike Perry and Wendy Underwood have over two decades of professional and personal experience turning marital crisis into triumph. Mike served as an Army psychologist and executive aide, guiding leaders at Walter Reed. Wendy led liturgical dance ministry and nursing, mentoring countless women through hardship. Together they have hosted workshops, spoken at faith-based conferences, and counseled couples worldwide. Their candid, dual-perspective storytelling makes them trusted guides on the path from brokenness to a marriage stronger than ‘perfect.’

Biggest Takeaway

By engaging with When you will: Identify how your early experiences influence your self-image and relationship habits; practice concrete forgiveness exercises to move past betrayal; establish simple daily rituals that deepen emotional intimacy; leverage community and accountability to sustain growth; and embrace a covenant mindset that sustains a marriage through any storm. You’ll gain clear action steps, reflection questions, and inspiring narratives that make change feel possible today.