Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

Unraveling Relationship Mysteries Most People Mistakenly Call 'Normal' and Transforming How You Find, Keep, and Thrive in Love

Amir Levine

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About This Book

Unlock the hidden patterns that drive your relationships. With clear science and compelling real-life examples, you'll discover why people push away those they care for, cling to the wrong partners, or simply can't seem to find lasting harmony. This guide demystifies the puzzle of intimacy, showing you how to decode behaviors, identify attachment styles, and confidently pursue secure, fulfilling relationships. You'll learn pragmatic strategies—backed by brain science and relatable anecdotes—for breaking free from destructive cycles and finally understanding what both you and your partners truly need. Whether you're dating, committed, or rebuilding after heartbreak, this journey will change the way you see yourself, others, and love itself.

About the Author

Dr. Amir Levine is a renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist specializing in human attachment, with a research pedigree from Columbia University. Alongside co-author Rachel Heller—a seasoned relationship coach and psychologist—he’s spent decades translating complex science into practical tools that help everyday people change their relationships for good. Together, their work fuses clinical wisdom, real-world observations, and engaging storytelling. Having helped thousands through workshops, clinical practice, and research, they stand at the intersection of pioneering science and genuine personal transformation.

Biggest Takeaway

Build the tools to spot unhealthy relationship patterns early, confidently express your needs without fear, and create true intimacy instead of settling for drama or distance. Expect greater emotional security, improved communication, and the power to choose partners who support your growth. You'll gain the ability to set healthy boundaries, escape painful attachment traps, and turn self-doubt into self-knowledge. As you apply these strategies, you’ll unlock resilience, emotional freedom, and deeper happiness in every area of your life—from romance to friendships and even work dynamics.