Living in an Inaccessible World: How Systemic Barriers Compound Personal Struggle

It’s easy to forget that the world is built for a narrow band of bodies—so long as you fit. When you don’t, the pain is sharp and persistent. Chairs with arms dig into soft flesh, doors and aisles shrink your movement, and even public transport or medical offices become sites of anxiety and humiliation. Though often invisible to those who fit, these daily indignities add up, reinforcing isolation and self-blame.

Social barriers work similarly. Family outings, school events, or professional gatherings are often designed without thought for all bodies. Being forced to buy two seats on a plane, scan Yelp for restaurant seating, or skip activities because nothing fits, chips away at confidence and opportunity. And it’s not just about size—people with disabilities, injuries, and diverse bodies all face similar exclusions.

Learning to recognize that these obstacles are systemic, not personal failings, is vital. Self-advocacy—asking, suggesting, even gently pushing institutions—grants some relief and builds momentum toward wider access for everyone. Even small, practical advocacy signals to others that it’s okay to take up space, be seen, and insist on belonging.

As you move through your regular routines this week, keep track of where you bump up against spaces—or attitudes—that make full participation hard. Take a little time to read up on your rights, local inclusion policies, or support resources, whether for seating, clothing, or public access. When you spot a chance—a class, meeting, or event—ask for what you need or suggest a more inclusive alternative. Each step helps not just you but others who may not yet have the words, confidence, or support to ask for better. Give yourself credit every time you try.