Overcoming Stigma Is as Crucial to Recovery as Any Treatment

Hard - Requires significant effort Recommended

It's hard not to shrink back when you hear a classmate joke about 'crazy people' or see a news report that implies trauma survivors are dangerous. Sometimes the harshest words are the ones repeated in your own head: 'Why can’t I just get over it?' But you remember the time you left a support group meeting feeling lighter, comforted by faces who'd been there too. It's not just about sharing grief, but reclaiming the narrative—telling your story on your terms rather than accepting society’s labels.

In small ways, you start changing how you talk to yourself. Instead of calling yourself weak, you acknowledge you’re in pain and still showing up. You speak up politely when someone makes a hurtful comment, even if your heart races. The coffee in your mug turns cold as you sit in on an online campaign for mental health awareness, realizing there are thousands who’ve walked similar roads.

Research points to stigma as a major barrier to seeking help and recovery—it feeds isolation, doubt, and even worsens symptoms. Studies show that finding kindred spirits and shifting self-talk interrupts this pattern, making way for resilience, self-esteem, and more effective healing.

This week, look for opportunities to connect with support—whether that’s reaching out to a peer group, reading stories from others who’ve been through similar struggles, or opening up to a trusted friend. When you catch yourself repeating a negative belief tied to shame, pause and swap it out for something neutral or affirming, even if it feels clumsy at first. Finally, if a safe moment arises, use your voice to gently challenge a stereotype you encounter. Every step chips away at isolation and brings society one step closer to compassion. Let yourself be part of that change.

What You'll Achieve

Reduce the impact of societal stigma, increase engagement with support networks, develop positive self-identity, and contribute meaningfully to a culture of acceptance and understanding.

Confront Negative Labels With Connection and Advocacy

1

Reach out to support groups or trusted allies.

Find or join a group where you can share your story and hear others’, reducing feelings of isolation caused by stigma.

2

Practice correcting negative self-talk tied to shame or societal labels.

When you notice thoughts like 'I am weak' or 'I am broken', pause and consciously replace them with neutral or affirming language about your experience.

3

Advocate—for yourself or others.

When you feel safe, speak up about stigmatizing attitudes at school, work, or in the community. Even small conversations can help shift perceptions.

Reflection Questions

  • What negative beliefs about yourself do you notice most often?
  • Who in your life has shown acceptance or understanding?
  • How would joining a support or advocacy group feel to you?
  • What small action can you take to challenge stigma this week?

Personalization Tips

  • A college student joins a campus mental health advocacy club, discovering peers who understand their struggles.
  • A parent models self-compassion by discussing their experiences with their children, normalizing mental health conversations at home.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Bessel van der Kolk
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