Failure Is Evidence of Doing Work That Matters

Hard - Requires significant effort Recommended

When Trina’s customer service experiment flopped—her 'happy calls' to unsatisfied clients weren’t well received—her first instinct was to cover it up. But her manager encouraged her to add it to a monthly ‘learning list’ shared across the department. Instead of finger-pointing, the team asked what she’d try differently and what she’d learned about customer needs. Reluctantly, Trina realized her flop was simply a byproduct of testing something new, and it catalyzed a better script the next week.

Across industries, high-performing companies increasingly reward what psychologist Amy Edmondson calls ‘intelligent failure’—efforts rooted in genuine intent, risk-managed, and properly reflected on. Silicon Valley and leading social innovators practice this openly, knowing that a culture intolerant to failure is also a culture intolerant to progress. Apple’s earliest devices flopped often, but every failed iPod prototype taught the team one more piece of the puzzle that the winning versions needed to get right.

When the reward structure highlights only success, not effort and iteration, people sabotage future innovation by refusing to try anything new that isn't already guaranteed.

For the next week, make it your mission to notice every little failure—and log them without judgment. At least once, discuss one of these failures with someone you trust, focusing on what you intended and what you learned. If your work or group allows it, share the story in a meeting, celebrating the risk you took. Shifting your narrative around failure isn't about loving mistakes, but recognizing that mistakes are the footprints that show you’re already moving. See if your team dares to celebrate attempts, not just outcomes—you might be surprised by the results.

What You'll Achieve

You’ll develop more resilience to setbacks, foster a more open and innovative group culture, and free yourself from constant fear of failing, allowing braver attempts in all domains.

Treat Failed Starts as Proud Badges

1

Document Every Failure for a Week.

Keep a simple log or notes app detailing ideas, attempts, or actions that didn’t succeed, from missed deadlines to unaccepted pitches.

2

Share One Failure With a Trusted Person.

Pick an example and discuss it with a colleague, mentor, or friend, focusing on your intent and the lesson learned rather than shame.

3

Celebrate Attempts—Not Just Wins—at Team Meetings.

If you work in a group, make space for a ‘failure of the week’ recognition to reinforce that effort and learning are valued over just flawless execution.

Reflection Questions

  • Where in your life do you hide failures instead of learning from them?
  • How can openly sharing a failed experiment make you (and your group) stronger?
  • What could you try if failing was genuinely treated as a badge of effort?

Personalization Tips

  • Teams: At project meetings, highlight a bold idea that didn’t work—alongside that week’s successes.
  • Personal: Write about your latest failed trial in a private journal, looking for lessons.
  • Leadership: As a manager, thank someone for a failed experiment that showed initiative.
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Seth Godin
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