Prepare for Courage—Practice Difficult Conversations Before They Happen

Courage rarely appears from nowhere—it’s built through preparation and practice, not just raw bravery. From civil rights activists who rehearsed with mock harassment at lunch counters, to military bomb squads practicing on mock devices, the most courageous performers spend time simulating stressful situations. This process wires the right habits, so when the real moment hits, the reaction feels possible—not paralyzing.

Psychologists call these 'implementation intentions': concrete plans that match a specific trigger to a specific response, like 'If I’m asked to fudge the numbers, I’ll say: I can’t do that.' Research shows that preloading responses increases follow-through on tough actions—including health changes, studying, even standing up for values.

Businesses and schools often default to lectures about 'doing the right thing,' but don’t create the safe space people need to practice what to say. Courage is not just a trait; it’s a skill best built in rehearsals before the moment arrives.

Visualize a challenge that makes you nervous—maybe confronting someone, refusing an unfair request, or standing up for a belief. Write or say out loud the words you’d want to use in that situation. Then, if possible, practice with a trusted friend or even in a mirror. The next time you feel pressure, you’ll have your plan ready and your body will know what to do. Try scripting one scenario this week—you might surprise yourself.