Why Growing Your Adventures—Not Just Repeating Them—Sustains Family Excitement

Greta Eskridge always loved jumping into new adventures, from leading outdoor hikes to managing big traveling dreams. But she also knew what it was like to hold back out of fear, hoping for the perfect moment that never seemed to materialize. There were times she built up a specific dream—like backpacking the Sierra mountains—until it seemed too big to attempt without impeccable planning and perfect circumstances. Meanwhile, the years ticked by, filled with little ones and busy schedules, and her opportunity appeared to be slipping away.

Unexpectedly, it was her husband, usually the more cautious one, who suggested the family’s first overnight backpacking trip. With just a day and a half to prepare, they hustled to gather gear and set out, nerves high and expectations uncertain. The experience was nothing like what Greta had imagined. The hike was tougher, the kids more tired, and the mishaps more frequent than any storybook adventure. Yet, the triumph of doing something new together—pushing past comfort, celebrating each member’s growth—turned a messy challenge into a powerful memory. The family realized they didn’t just survive; they planted seeds for bigger dreams.

Research on “deliberate challenge” shows that actively stretching limits, together, drives emotional excitement and lasting engagement, especially when everyone participates in choosing their challenge. Families, teams, and groups who build on their foundations with new experiences build stronger bonds, greater pride, and a shared sense of possibility.

Look over what your family or group does for fun and notice if any of it feels a bit too routine—be honest if you’re just going through the motions. Invite everyone to brainstorm one way you could gently expand an activity this month—maybe stay out a little later, aim for a new skill, or try a place that feels unfamiliar. Get buy-in from the most reluctant person and set up safeguards or comforts so that everyone feels supported. Afterward, take a few moments to celebrate what went well and talk about any surprises—then ask yourselves what the next level might look like. It’s a chain reaction that only gets easier.