How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids
The surprising science and real-talk strategies for surviving chore wars, invisible labor, and relationship resentment with humor and hope
About This Book
How do you keep your marriage thriving after kids? This insightful and refreshingly honest guide draws from real stories, authoritative research, and actionable advice to help parents navigate the chaos that children can bring into a partnership. Through relatable examples, behavioral science, and a big dose of humor, you'll discover why so many couples struggle after becoming parents—and learn exactly how to restore harmony, rekindle your connection, and share the load fairly. Whether you’re wrestling with housework disparities, endless fights, or the feeling of carrying the mental load alone, you’ll find the tools to reclaim what’s good in your partnership—and even have fun doing it.About the Author
Jancee Dunn is a celebrated journalist and author known for her candid approach to family and relationships. With bylines in national magazines including Vogue and Rolling Stone, she combines the sharp eye of a seasoned reporter with the empathy of a fellow parent navigating the same real-world struggles. Her writing is acclaimed for blending rigorous research, laugh-out-loud anecdotes, and deeply relatable wisdom. As a mother and partner herself, Dunn brings both credibility and connection to every strategy she shares.
Biggest Takeaway
Readers will gain practical skills for improving communication, negotiating chore divisions, and reducing hidden resentment in their relationships. You will learn how to set boundaries, ask for help assertively, and recognize the emotional and invisible labor that may be impacting your daily life. By implementing these insights, couples can decrease daily stress, model healthier behaviors for their children, and foster deeper mutual appreciation—all leading to a more balanced, joyful family life.
Key Insights from This Book
Explore the most important ideas and learn how to apply them in your life.
Why Fairy-Tale Division of Labor Falls Apart After Kids
The Invisible Load: How Hidden Labor Drains Relationships
Break the Blame Cycle: Why 'He Just Doesn’t See It' Isn’t the Whole Story
Master Hostage Negotiator Skills to Defuse Family Blowups Fast
Zero Negativity Challenge: Can Your Relationship Survive 30 Days Without Put-Downs?
Chore Divide Unfair? Why Clear Agreements Beat 'Just Ask When You Need Help'
Letting Go Of the Myth of Super Mom (or Dad): Delegate, Lower Standards, and Recharge
Don’t Just Fight—Fight Right: Science-Backed Rules for Arguments That Actually Fix Problems
Modeling Matters: Your Behavior Sets the Emotional Blueprint for Kids
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