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An Illustrated Checklist for How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others So You Can Learn to Love Yourself and Finally Break Free from Living Someone Else’s Story

Adele Faber

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About This Book

Leave behind the exhausting chase for perfection and step into a life shaped by your own values, not the judgments of others. By breaking the cycle of harsh comparisons, toxic competition, and self-doubt, you'll discover clear, vivid techniques for growing authentic self-esteem and defining your own version of meaning. Filled with relatable stories—like breaking free of social media envy or standing up for your dignity at work—these practical checklists and reflections guide you to nurture your uniqueness and build resilience in a noisy, demanding world. This isn’t about hollow positivity; it’s about facing complex emotions and society’s pressures head-on, so you can truly live as yourself and learn to respect your own journey.

About the Author

Kim Suhyun is a celebrated writer and illustrator based in Seoul, known for blending insightful commentary on modern life with a warm, relatable style. With over two million books sold in Korea and translations in a dozen languages, her work empowers ordinary people to unearth their self-worth and question inherited judgments. Her thoughtful, occasionally playful voice challenges convention yet never loses sight of empathy, making her advice especially resonant for those struggling with self-doubt, anxiety, or feelings of not fitting in.

Biggest Takeaway

Readers gain a practical blueprint to let go of damaging social comparisons and reclaim the right to define their own happiness, worth, and direction. The skills you’ll build—from learning to reject pointless judgements to processing complex emotions with compassion—lead to real, lasting increases in confidence, self-acceptance, and relationship quality. By the end, you’ll have concrete tools for making decisions with wisdom (not anxiety), expressing your needs, managing setbacks without self-blame, and cultivating a sense of dignity no matter your circumstances.