Why some teachers can't inspire the very habit they're demanding
Have you ever wondered why one teacher's enthusiasm for a subject seems to spread through an entire room, while another teacher's mandate to do the exact same thing falls completely flat? Donalyn Miller's answer is uncomfortably simple: it depends on whether the teacher actually lives the thing they're asking for.
Research on preservice teachers, reported by Anthony and Mary Applegate in an article called 'The Peter Effect,' found that just over half of the future teachers studied were themselves unenthusiastic about reading. That matters because, as literacy researcher Linda Gambrell has found, one of the key factors in motivating students to read is having a teacher who genuinely values reading and shares that enthusiasm. A related line of research, from Ruddell, found that teachers who see reading as an emotional and intellectual journey, rather than only a set of skills to extract information, have a greater long-term influence on their students' reading habits and motivation than teachers who treat reading purely as a tool.
Miller ties this to something more personal in her own account. Her principal, when interviewing any candidate for a teaching position at her school, always asks what book they last read, regardless of what subject they'll teach, because he believes a teacher's own reading life is a resource students draw on every day. At home, her husband Don carries a book everywhere he goes, into restaurants, on trips to the grocery store, even, once, into a tree he walked straight into while reading on the sidewalk. It is a small, almost comic detail, but it points at the same underlying fact: modeling is not a lesson plan, it is a way of living that people around you absorb whether you intend them to or not.
The uncomfortable implication is that no curriculum, no matter how well designed, can substitute for this. A teacher who does not read cannot convincingly ask students to love reading, any more than someone who never exercises can convincingly coach fitness. You cannot inspire in others a passion you do not actually hold yourself.
Start by making your own reading visible rather than private. Read for at least a few minutes somewhere the people you're trying to influence can see you doing it, and talk openly about what's difficult, not only what you enjoy, so your struggles seem as real as your enthusiasm. When someone recommends something to you, actually read it and tell them what you thought, so recommendations become a two-way habit rather than a one-way request. Keep a simple, visible record of what you've read, so your commitment is something people can point to rather than something you only claim. None of this requires new materials or a new program; it only requires that the habit you're asking for in others is one you're genuinely living yourself.
What You'll Achieve
You recognize that enthusiasm cannot be assigned or mandated, only demonstrated, and you begin treating your own visible reading habit as central instructional practice rather than a private matter separate from your teaching or parenting.
How to become the reading role model your students are missing
*Read something for yourself every day, visibly*
Even fifteen minutes counts, but it has to happen where the people you're trying to influence can see it happening.
*Talk about what's hard, not only what you love*
Naming a book you struggled with or abandoned does more to build trust than only praising what you finished.
*Ask for a recommendation and actually follow through on it*
Take a suggestion from a student, colleague, or friend seriously enough to read it and report back.
*Keep a visible, running list of what you've read*
A record you can point to makes your habit provable rather than just claimed.
Reflection Questions
- Would the people you're trying to influence describe you as someone who genuinely lives the habit you're asking of them?
- When was the last time you shared a reading struggle, rather than only a recommendation, with someone you're trying to inspire?
- What would change if your own habit became visible instead of private?
Personalization Tips
- A manager who tells staff to take breaks but never takes one herself is unlikely to change anyone's behavior no matter how often she repeats the instruction.
- A parent who insists on screen-free evenings while scrolling on their own phone teaches the opposite of what they intend.
- A coach who demands discipline in training but skips their own workouts will struggle to be believed.
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