Use negative emotions for positive change

Instructions

  1. Record your emotions.
    Spend a few minutes each day recording how you feel. What bad emotions did you have? What triggered these feelings? What would you have to believe to feel that way? Are your beliefs accurate? Could you have felt better if you had understood thoughts or experiences differently?

  2. Use the feeling of worthlessness to grow.
    Write about circumstances in which you don't feel good enough. List thoughts about those circumstances you identify with. Make a list of your successes. Create a self-esteem jar or write a positive journal. Don't be ashamed or downplay your qualities when someone compliments you, but thank them.

  3. Use resentment to grow.
    Change your interpretation; make a note of what happened and what made you upset. Confront the person you are angry with and talk honestly with them about what happened and what you feel. Forgive by listing how your resentment impacts your happiness and peace of mind. Finally, commit to letting go of resentful thoughts. When such ideas emerge, let them go.

  4. Use stress/worry to grow.
    Sort your worries into three columns (those you can control, those you have little control over, and those you have no control over). For worries over which you have control, write down actions you can take to reduce the worry. For stressors over which you have no control, change your beliefs.

  5. Use jealousy to grow.
    Write down who you are jealous of and why? Then write down how you could cooperate with those people, support them, and use their success to motivate you to progress?

  6. Use depression to grow.
    Do things that reduce depression. Start exercising, move your body and be active. Meditate. Occupy your mind with some obligations, and fulfill some tasks. Devote your time and thoughts to other people; too much focus on yourself leads to preoccupation with your flaws, which leads to depression.

  7. Use fear/discomfort to grow.
    Leave the comfort zone. Do one activity that makes you uncomfortable every day. Write down one thing you don't do just because you're afraid, and then do that thing.

  8. Use procrastination to grow.
    Start with identifying the causes of your procrastination first. Then, track your behavior by listing down what prevents you from doing the things that need to be done. Set a clear goal for each task. Prioritize important tasks and stay accountable. You can find an accountability partner, seek a coach, send your goal list to a buddy once a week, and so on. Finally, imagine yourself working on a task or how you have already completed it - this will motivate you to start doing it.

  9. Use lack of motivation to grow.
    Start daily routines that will motivate you. Start your day doing things that inspire you. Make a decision that you will complete specific tasks for the next 30 days without excuses. Instead of criticizing yourself, practice self-compassion and love - be gentle with yourself, speak words of support to yourself, and use mantras and positive affirmations.

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