Harness Family (or Group) Disputes for Progress

Acknowledge ongoing frictions. Openly recognize recurring disputes—over chores, attention, or decisions—without blaming anyone.

Shift focus from outcome to process. Instead of seeking a ‘winner’, ask ‘How do we resolve decisions?’ Propose using a shared rule or rotating responsibility.

Create a system for honest negotiation. Invite all members to voice what they value most and suggest fair, flexible swaps; practice compromise repeatedly.