Re-interpret old references and create new, empowering ones.


  1. Write down the five most powerful experiences that have shaped who you are.
    Describe the experience and how it impacted you.
  2. Replace negative interpretations with positive ones.
    Think of any way in which the experience served you.
  3. Assess and write down which references you need to achieve what you want.
    Perhaps you need references that you’re a good partner or references that you appreciate life.
  4. Write down fun references to have.
    Consider things that would make you feel good, like learning how to dance or a new language.
  5. Pursue experiences and knowledge related to the references you seek.
    Be creative. If you want references that you’re disciplined, you could take up an activity that requires discipline, such as martial arts.


No insights yet

Take action!

Our mobile app, Mentorist, will guide you on how to acquire this skill.
If you have the app installed