Replace the victim role with presence.

Notice that if your ego cannot get praise in other ways, it will play the role of victim.
The attention it seeks is sympathy, pity, interest in my problems—’me and my story.’

Become aware of the sad story you tell yourself and others.
You may be telling this story out loud, in your thoughts, or both.

Notice your identity as someone who is being treated unfairly by people, life, or God.

Change your thoughts about the situation or fact (which is neutral).
‘I am ruined’ is a story which creates suffering and prevents you from taking effective action. ‘I have 50 cents left in my bank account’ is a fact, and facing facts is empowering.

If there is nothing you can do, face what is and say, “Well, right now, this is how it is. I can either accept it, or I can make myself miserable.”

Replace that sad story with presence: a new, alert way of showing up.