Relive your past traumatic experiences

Re-enter the memory of the experience.
Close your eyes and identify where the uncomfortable feeling resides in your body. Breathe in and out slowly, and as your body relaxes, notice where in your body you’re storing tension. Visualize that feeling, where it came from, and what it needs you to know. If it’s an old memory, ask it to show you where it started. If the memory is still fresh, imagine yourself back in the scenario where it occurred.

Create a new narrative to replace the painful memory.
Imagine a healed, happy, older version of you sitting down and talking to your younger self. If you got your heart broken, imagine the older you explaining why this event is for the best, and there’s a better relationship for you. Give your younger self specific instructions on what they can do to feel better, e.g., who to call, what to stop doing, and where to go. Then tell them that everything will be better soon.

Release the negative emotions by sweating, moving, or crying.
Allow yourself to feel the sadness, anger, resentment, or any other emotion that arises without holding back. If you feel like crying, then do so. You can also take a walk, exercise, or do some yoga to help release or use up the pent-up energy stored in your body.

Restore your feeling of safety in the area of life where you were traumatized.
Once you’ve identified the areas of your life where you experienced trauma, take steps to restore a feeling of safety. If you went through an abusive relationship, work on creating new, healthy, and safe relationships. If you lost your job, create side hustles to ensure you have a backup plan in case you lose your job again.