Master listening to people actively.
from The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane
By being a good listener, you make people feel good about themselves, and they will perceive you as someone who cares about them. As a consequence, you will be more charismatic. Bear in mind that great listening skills start with the right mindset.
How to Apply This
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Beware of letting people talk until it’s your turn.
You can’t let your mind wander through what you plan to say. Your lack of presence will be written on your face. -
Presence is crucial for active listening.
If your mind starts to wander, bring yourself back to a physical sensation such as the movement of your breathing. -
Never interrupt.
Being interrupted can be frustrating to the person speaking. -
When someone interrupts you, let them do it.
No, it’s not okay. But you don’t want the other person to feel bad about it. -
Wait a second before giving your answer.
More precisely, use this sequence to look much more charismatic:- They finish their sentence.
- Your face absorbs.
- Your face reacts.
- Then, and only then, you answer.
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