Learn from your rejection and use it to push you forward


  1. Write down 10 different times you’ve experienced rejection
    Was it a job opportunity? A book you’d written? A potential girlfriend/boyfriend? As you go down the list, ask yourself “What would it have been like if I hadn’t gone through these situations?” Think about how each of those rejections made a positive impact on who you are today.

  2. Improve a rejected product or service
    If you’re selling a product and people are rejecting it, take a hard look at what you’re offering. Is it good enough for the market? How can you improve it? Brainstorm some ideas and identify 10 things you can do to improve whatever you’re offering.

  3. Change your approach to improve your odds of success
    For example, if you’re not getting any luck scoring a date in bars, then switch to a different place where the odds aren’t stacked against you. If nobody is responding to your sales emails, then consider offering customers a free sample to gain their interest.

  4. Enhance your authenticity by building up your online presence
    You can use social media platforms to share your information and let people know what you have to offer. Each follower or fan you gain will help establish your authenticity as a person who has something valuable to offer. By focusing on building authenticity on your platform, it becomes easier to ignore the few voices out there that have rejected you.

  5. Ask for advice
    If someone rejects you, take some time to settle your emotions. Once you’re calm, approach them and ask why they rejected you. They could give you a valid reason that may help you in the long run.

  6. Change the way you react to failure
    Being rejected may make you cry, give up, beat yourself up or blame others for your failure. Since rejection is inevitable, take time to understand your reaction to failure. Use that rejection to learn more about yourself and how you approach life. Sometimes rejection can be the best thing that ever happened to you.

  7. Count all the things you’re grateful for
    Write down all the positive and negative things that you’ve been through and be grateful for them. Then figure out why you’re thankful for each item on the list and embody that genuine feeling of gratitude. For example, if it’s raining, be grateful for abundant water. If stuck in a jam, be grateful for the human achievement that made cars possible.


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