Forgive people for their faults

When someone upsets you with their behavior, remind yourself that they don’t do it willingly.
Do not forget that you’re privileged. Not everybody had the same upbringing as you had. Not all have the same genes, education, and early exposure. These things highly influence a person, and it’s not something you can control.

Calm yourself down by admitting it’s not their fault and act kindly.
It makes no sense to be angry with these people. It’s not their fault. A much better way to deal with them is to lead by example. Instead of reacting angrily, react in a kind and understanding way. Instead of judging them, try to help and support them.

Find your own faults.
Let’s not get carried away by your initial impression that the other is a jerk, but let’s bring to mind that you’ve been there before. You’ve been that exact jerk before. And you judged yourself mildly at most.

Put yourself in their shoes.
Think about possible reasons why they act the way they do. Maybe you’d do the same if you were in their situation.

Forgive them because that’s something you can control.
Imagine how much more forgiving you’d be if you could see other people’s missteps as inevitable, natural, or stemming from an illness? They got misrouted. It’s not their fault. The only appropriate response is compassion and forgiveness. Try to help rather than blame those who stumble.

Always keep in mind that maybe you’re wrong this time, not them.