Develop self-compassion to ensure long-term success


  1. Talk to yourself compassionately
    Talk to yourself nicely and gently, especially when you’ve failed or are struggling to accomplish something. Self-talk is more effective than motivational videos or fake compliments from others.

  2. Accept your fallibility and recognize your failures as a human being
    Accept that as a human, you aren’t perfect and you will make mistakes. This can help you avoid irrational thoughts and frustrating emotions that often come after a failure. Practice meditation and mindfulness to quieten your mind. You can also write down nice thoughts about yourself and your fallibility to help you feel better.

  3. Watch out for any self-delusions that may lead to overconfidence
    If you are a naturally confident individual, stay aware of delusional thoughts such as “I’m the smartest person in this company.” Look for challenging tasks or situations that cause you to struggle as this will keep you humble. Show empathy and keep an open mind when interacting with others.

  4. Earn your confidence through competence
    Confidence is a result of success. Therefore, find something you enjoy doing and become good at it. Strive to make small wins every day to boost your skills and confidence. Focus on gaining competence instead of looking good to others.


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