Develop positive thoughts


  1. Observe your brain’s chatter.
    You are not your thoughts, so allow yourself just to observe the thoughts running in your mind without engaging with them. Then, let them go. But if there is a thought you can’t seem to let go of, acknowledge it and how it makes you feel. Look and observe which thought is triggering that emotion. Then, practice reframing the thought and seeing its inaccuracies. For example, if you keep thinking that your project is not good enough, you may realize that your fear of approval is the main cause of that thought.
  2. Stop incessant thoughts.
    Focus on doing instead of ruminating. This activates the executing portion of thought of the brain instead of the dialogue one. When an incessant thought appears, try to focus on what needs to be done by doing something else or thinking about something else instead of lingering on it,
  3. Tell your brain what you want to think about.
    Take the reign of your thoughts by giving them orders. If you have a negative thought, for example, tell yourself to replace it with a positive one. When you want silence, tell your thoughts to be silent. Give your brain commands, and it will follow.
  4. Create and use your happy list to guide your thoughts.
    When a negative thought doesn’t bulge, create a happy list and refer to it. Start by writing down everything that makes you happy. You may begin your sentence with: “I’m happy when ____.” Keep this list and refer to it whenever you’re having a bad day. This way, it will be easier for you to be optimistic and happy!
  5. Look at your ego.
    Strip down your ego by stripping yourself. Look at all your possessions and ask, “Are these objects intended to fuel my ego or for basic utility?” Your answer to this question may make you realize whether you’re immersed in the illusion of self and see where your ego infringes on your happiness.
  6. Use the eraser test to let go of the past.
    If you keep thinking about your past hates and regrets, reflect first on how they impacted your life—both the positives and the negatives. If there’s a technology that will help you erase that specific event in your past, would you want it to be erased, considering the good things that happened to you too? Chances are, you’ll feel more grateful it happened, as it hones you into a better person right now.
  7. Be present in the moment.
    Make it a habit to list down the five things you see around you and describe each of them. This will help you ground to the present moment.
  8. Identify your fears.
    To overcome your fears, you first need to know what they are. Ask yourself: What fears are holding me back from achieving happiness and success? What’s the worst thing that could happen if I don’t overcome this fear now? What actions can I take to prevent these worst things from happening? What would happen if I did nothing at all about it?


No insights yet

Take action!

Our mobile app, Mentorist, will guide you on how to acquire this skill.
If you have the app installed