When Things Fall Apart
Self-compassion
Practice Maitri

Practice Maitri

from When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chödrön

How to Apply This

  1. Recognize your inner critic.
    Notice when you are being overly critical of yourself. Understand that self-criticism is a common human experience and recognizing it is your first step toward building self-compassion. Ask yourself, "What am I criticizing myself for, and how can I view this through a kinder lens?"
  2. Release the desire to control everything.
    When a situation arises that is out of your control, consciously remind yourself to let it unfold without intervention. Afterward, reflect on how letting go affected the outcome and how you felt about it.
  3. Notice your habits without self-judgment.
    Observe your recurring thoughts and behaviors with curiosity instead of criticism. This nonjudgmental awareness is essential for cultivating self-compassion. Think about what triggers these patterns and consider what they might be teaching you.
  4. Find time for quiet reflection.
    Carve out moments in your day for stillness and introspection. These quiet times can help you connect to a clearer, more peaceful state of mind. Consider starting or ending your day with a five-minute meditation focusing on your breath or a simple mantra.
  5. Contemplate life's wonders.
    Regularly take time to appreciate the simple joys and wonders of life, like watching a sunset or listening to birds sing. This practice can shift your focus from self-centered concerns to a broader, more connected perspective, enhancing feelings of joy and interconnectedness.

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