Build an intimate relationship
from How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo
How to Apply This
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Give your partner the 5 A’s: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.
They will feel loved and appreciated. -
Love unconditionally, with no feelings of entitlement.
When you love without expectations, there is no such thing as ego. Attachment turns into healthy, committed, intelligent bonding. -
Be yourself.
Be who you truly are at every moment. Express your views, opinions, likes, and dislikes without the fear of being judged or criticized. However, be ready to improve yourself when the need arises. -
Give clear answers to “even though” questions.
For example, say yes or no clearly when your partner tries to find out if you would still marry her even though she has poor spending habits. -
Base your relationship on a fulfilling friendship that includes sex, and not on sex alone.
Bond with your partner during most of your activities like eating, exercising, taking a stroll, and vacations, etc. -
Ask for an ego audit.
Look for feedback from your friends, relatives, neighbors, and colleagues about your behaviors and make adjustments. -
Express intimacy.
You can do so through eye contact, respectful touching, physical closeness, and being open to your partner.
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