Become a Secure partner

Recognize your positive secure traits.
If you find yourself as a secure attached person, you should be aware of your system and cherish it.

Provide a secure base by adopting secure behaviors.
If you are insecure and want to work on your system, you need to make some changes if you are in a relationship: be available (be open to your partner’s needs and provide comfort), don’t interfere (help in a way that leaves them with the initiative without undermining their confidence) and encourage (boost their self-esteem and provide support). These actions will help your relationship and offer your partner a secure feeling which they will reciprocate.

Make a list of everything you need in a relationship to feel happy, safe and loved.
When you start a new relationship, communicate your needs from day one. Expect to be treated with respect, love and dignity. Don’t settle for less.

Be aware of your options.
Understand that there are many other potential partners for you who can make you happy. Don’t desperately get involved in relationships without a future.

Find a secure partner.
Try meeting new people and applying these new principles you have accepted so far. Be honest, available, and communicate your intentions.