The Coaching Habit
Workplace communication
Ask the lazy question (“how can I help?”) to pinpoint what you need to focus on

Ask the lazy question (“how can I help?”) to pinpoint what you need to focus on

from The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier

How to Apply This

  1. Be blunt.
    For example, ask “what exactly do you want me to do for you?”. This type of question will lure others to make a direct and clear request.

  2. Be polite.
    Use a soft and polite tone while asking the lazy question.

  3. Be courageous enough to give a genuine answer to the lazy question.
    For example, say “yes”, “no” or “I will think about it” if someone asks you to help with a particular project or task. Don’t beat around the bush.

  4. Give only solicited advice.
    For example, resist the urge to advise someone who asks you to help with data entry for a delayed project. In this case, you should either accept or refuse to help. However, you can advise him if he asked you the fastest way to enter a particular type of data.

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