How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere
Communication
Kickstart a conversation effectively
from How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere: The Secrets of Good Communication by Larry King
How to Apply This
- Present yourself positively in conversations.
Ensure that you appear to be enjoying the conversation. This will make the other person feel more at ease and inclined to engage more openly with you. - Make the conversation about the other person.
People love to talk about themselves. By asking open-ended questions about them, you not only make them feel valued but also find common ground to keep the conversation flowing. - Ask open-ended questions.
Frame your questions in a manner that encourages expansive answers. Instead of asking "Is the weather hot?", ask "How do you feel about this hot weather and its connection to global warming?" - Prioritize active listening.
To be a good conversationalist, you must also be a good listener. Truly hear what the other person is saying, respond appropriately, and ask insightful follow-up questions when possible. - Use natural body language.
Ensure that your body language is genuine and comes naturally. Don't try to force certain postures or gestures because they might come across as insincere. - Maintain consistent eye contact. Looking into someone’s eyes while speaking or listening shows that you're actively engaged in the conversation. But make sure you don't stare intensely, as it can be unsettling.
- Be conscious of conversational taboos. Stay aware of potentially sensitive topics like politics, religion, or personal finances. The appropriateness of discussing such subjects varies depending on your relationship with the person and the setting.
- Stay informed about current events. Being aware of topical news and events helps in initiating and sustaining conversations. When you're updated about what's going on in the world, it's easier to relate to others and discuss topics of mutual interest.
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