Refrain from pleasing people


  1. Reflect on your past experiences to understand the roots of your people-pleasing behavior.
    Take some time to journal or engage in self-reflection to gain insights into why you tend to prioritize others' needs over your own.
  2. Recognize that people-pleasing is not a selfless act.
    Remind yourself that constantly seeking approval and trying to please everyone is not a sustainable or healthy approach.
  3. Be honest with yourself and others.
    Start speaking up and expressing your true desires and opinions, even if it may potentially disappoint or upset others. Remember that your own needs and values are valid.
  4. Identify and define your core values.
    Take a pen and paper and write down the values that are most important to you. Consider how you want to live your life in alignment with those values.
  5. Prioritize your most important relationships.
    Evaluate your relationships and identify the ones that truly matter to you. Allocate more time and energy to nurturing those connections and communicating openly with those individuals.
  6. Practice saying no without feeling the need for elaborate excuses.
    Start by practicing saying no to small requests or invitations. Be firm but polite, and remember that you don't owe everyone a detailed explanation for your decisions.
  7. Establish healthy limits and boundaries in your relationships and daily life.
    Reflect on areas where you feel overextended or taken advantage of, and set clear boundaries to protect your time, energy, and well-being. Communicate these boundaries assertively yet respectfully.


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