Refrain from letting your presence be what protects your children.

It’s extremely easy to keep tabs on your children these days—you can track their phone by GPS, call them on their cellphones to check up on them, drive them to school and walk them into the building to make sure they get there safely, etc. However, this prevents a child from learning the skills necessary to survive in the adult world when you will not be there to watch over them.

Raising a child to independent adulthood is the goal of any parent. To do this, you must allow your child to develop self-awareness in their surroundings—and this can only be achieved by allowing them some freedom.


  1. Ask yourself, “To what end am I going to stay vigilant about my child’s safety?”
    How far are you going to go to protect your children? Are you going to be an overprotective parent who expects your child to text you on the hour, every hour? Clearly and rationally define the measures you will take to ensure your child is safe. Overprotectiveness is rarely necessary.
  2. Remember that you need to teach your children skills that will help them become independent.
    You can’t always be there to protect your children—they must learn to protect themselves. Think about what you can do to ensure your child’s safety while still allowing them some form of independence so they can learn to take care of themselves when you’re not around.


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